Guest Review #5
Me and You and Everyone We Know (2005)
Written and Directed by Miranda July
Rating: 2.50/10.00 or *
Miranda July’s debut film Me and You and Everyone We Know has received tremendous critical acclaim and become a minor success story. Critics are attracted to the story of lonely people making tentative connections in an intimidating and unfriendly world. Art-house patrons across the nation have found it simply incredible, and I’m forced to agree. In fact, there is not a single moment in Everyone We Know that is remotely credible on any level. It’s a cinematic Nigerian chain letter, asking you to make an emotional investment in order to receive an illusory reward.
July makes a number of mistakes trying to handle the texture of the movie itself. Although it may sound like nitpicking, observational movies rise and fall based on how keenly they perceive emotional and physical details. How then to explain a ten-year-old girl (Carlie Westerman) who owns major appliances, keeps a dowry, and says things like, “This is my hope chest, or in French, my trousseau?” And what about Andrew (Brad Henke), a man in his early thirties, who publicly posts sexually explicit fantasies about neighboring girls half his age without (a) attracting the ire of his neighbors who might have small children; or (b) making the objects of his affection at all uncomfortable?
You’re nodding impatiently, thinking, Is that all? Not remotely. It’s only the most obvious symptom of a more deeply rooted dishonesty. Critic Jonathan Rosenbaum, in praising the movie, notes that the characters “are touching and sympathetic to the extent that they're lonely,” which is certainly true. What’s problematic is the way that July uses loneliness to infantilize her characters, rendering them harmless while at the same time protecting them from our moral judgment. We’re never supposed to consider that these people are responsible for the choices that they’ve made.
When Richard Swersey (John Hawkes) burns his hand, for example, he’s really watching himself burn more than he is setting himself on fire. The movie presents it in such a detached and unreal fashion that Swersey doesn’t seem to have a choice in the matter. When Andrew is posting his sexual fantasies, he concludes by admitting that what he really wants is to cuddle up and sleep in somebody’s arms. This admission serves to discourage the audience from thinking about the explicit content of his earlier public missives. Without it, we might conclude that Andrew is a little sleazy, and possibly even dangerous.
This fuzzy thinking is most noticeable in the story of Robby (Brandon Ratcliff), Swersey’s six-year-old son. He starts off by having sexually explicit conversations with an amorous stranger on the Internet, and later troops off to the park to meet the mystery woman. Given the sunny result, it may sound curmudgeonly to note that children have been abducted, raped, and killed doing this very same thing. July, astonishingly, presents the scene without even a hint of menace. The stranger is presumed to be harmless because she’s already admitted that she really needs somebody she can trust. (Presumably, sexual predators never get the blues.)
But if Everyone We Know is poorly thought out as a character-driven comedy, it’s even less convincing as a personal statement. One of the supporting characters in Everybody We Know is Nancy (Tracy Wright), an art curator who is dismissive when Christine Jesperson (Miranda July) arrives to deliver a tape of her performance art. Unlike the other characters, Nancy is openly mocked for being rigidly doctrinaire (initially rejecting Jesperson’s art because she’s not “of color”) and an idiot (declaring that “there wouldn’t be e-mail without AIDS”). She returns to Jesperson’s video later on and realizes that Jesperson is just as lonely as she is, and so decides to show her artwork. Finally, we discover that Nancy is the anonymous stranger who has been recounting scatological fantasies to Robbie throughout the film.
Her story is singular for several reasons. This is the only part of Everyone We Know that is less than warm. Although the plot line theoretically serves to humanize an unsympathetic character, Nancy is only fully sympathetic after having been repeatedly humiliated and revealed as a fraud. This suggests that July’s celebration of the eccentricities of ordinary people is coupled with the suggestion that the uppity should be brought down to “our” level. The story is also quite self-serving, implying that those who fail to respond to her film are too stuck up and out of touch with their own humanity to truly understand it.
July never explores the narcissism, the populist rage, and the passive-aggressive manipulation in her artistic persona; her worldview is too childish (or if you will, “guileless”) to even consider such issues. If you believe that true love doesn’t solve everything, that sometimes people do want to hurt each other, and that some pains never entirely go away, you’ve already evolved beyond Everyone We Know.
Editor's Note: This review was written by Daniel Linehan.